If

Just a little something on confidence for you guys.Enjoy!


'if' by rudyard kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:



If you can dream - and not make dreams your master,
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:



If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"



If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!

Rudyard Kipling (1865-1936)





Kipling is said to have written the poem 'If' with Dr Leander Starr Jameson in mind, who led about five-hundred of his countrymen in a failed raid against the Boers, in southern Africa. The 'Jameson Raid' was later considered a major factor in starting the Boer War (1899-1902)

30 DAYS OF THANKFULNESS - DAY 26

Please join me in the Thankfulness Chain....if I tag you today, please complete the tag tomorrow (November 27), and title your post “30 Days of Thankfulness - Day 27”. Please provide a link to myself and the two people that you're tagging for Day 27, so that we can all follow the chain... please let them know they're being tagged, why they're being tagged, and how to grow the chain.



If I tag you today and you’re unable to do the tag tomorrow, you can still choose the day to reflect the date on which you do it (e.g. if you choose to do it on November 28, you can title the post “30 Days of Thankfulness – Day 28”). The same applies if you decide to complete the tag today, instead of tomorrow. Please post these rules, or something to this effect, to help the tag along.



I was gradually becoming a complaining/nagging woman, God has started to change me, it was so good to be tagged by daddys girl, because its a confirmation that i have so much to be grateful for





I am Thankful for being alive, God on so many occasions i as a human have felt like the only way out would be death, he has kept me,i am so great ful for the gift of life. I have had my illnesses and sicknesses but He has kept me.




I am thankful for my wonderful family- should i say families now. He has blessed me with the best father ever, a supportive mother,A almost perfect husband, great and wonderful siblings, A good and God fearing mother in law, nice in laws.




I am thankful for my neighbours - we are not the best of friends, but we all live in peace at all times. In fact just thanking God for them has made me realise i need to bless them somehow.



I am thankful for my career - i complain so much about how i want a job and money and all, i just keep complaining, but looking back now, the Lord has been faithful, am sure he started this work, cos through it all He has keep me focused and determined. I am so thankful for the fact that he started me off from the very bottom, in the last few years i have watched my self only go higher. He is able and i am thankful for this. I was fighting myself(note myself) in my office that i am leaving today, but i have come to realise that i have been here at this time for a purpose and i am thankful for this.




I am thankful for my home, a roof over my head, a shelter away from the troubles of this world.




I am thankful for my friends, old, new, walked, previous and future - i have been telling anyone that wants to listen, how i don't have friends and how i want a good friend, i can be myself with, encourage, mess around with and just generally be there for. I have been crying about the ones i lost, the ones i miss etc. But i want to thank God now for the people around me, i thank God that in little ways i am able to be a blessing to each and every one of them, i pray he continues to teach me to love unconditionally expecting nothing in return. I am thankful for a certain person i have known for a few years, yet it seems like i have known her all my life. We have our fights and make up, not so near each other yet our friendship has blossomed, she has been like no friend i have ever had, so close that i cannot exactly call her friend. I thank God, for the kind of spark and grace she carries with her, and though sometimes she wants more, i am thankful because her future is settled.




I am also thankful for my new discovery!! JOYCE MEYER!!!!!!





For everything i say Thank You lord, continue to keep a word of praise on my lips, continue to make me a blessing. Strengthen me in your word Lord, Please continue to hide me under the shadow of your wings.




Amen.


I am tagging Sisbee, Mrs Somebody and Nyemoni 9Don't know how to put the links, sorry).

Insight

I got tagged for tomorrow but i just wanted to say today that My God has been so faithful.....i know something is about to happen cos i am soooooooo expectant. Will fill u people in when it manifests.



In the meantime i think tomorrow is my last day here in our 2 man office, another door has opened and i'm walking right into it.I gave the proper leave oooo and it ends tomorrow or on Monday.




Recently i have just been feeling so wonderful with myself, i wish i could show you pictures! Its good to feel nice, i asked DH why he was treating me a bit differently these days. His answer - "you look different and are acting different, ur skin is shinning so much more than before, what happened?" wow. Here's tooo plenty more bliss.



And DH is taking me to see Brian Mcknight and all the people coming on sunday.... i look forward to it. Will give u details of all that on monday i suppose, he has been so so sweet and has it all planned. I can't wait.



Ok my people wait for my thankful post tomorrow.....

Random Stuff

Hey Long time no blog!!


Just read sisb's blog and realised that i am guilty as charged lol.



I am actually one of those people that claim to be too busy to visit, too busy to call, too busy to blog and yes it seems to me that the days just turn into weeks and weeks into months. I have been too busy doing nothing and living on facebook to blog.



Been back for over 2 weeks now, just gave my resignation letter and have accepted my new offer that i hope goes well. I hear it's as challenging as i hope. Anyway that's that on the job front.



Home front - it smells like christmas already, with my new job i sincerely have no plans for christmas, how i wish i could go to NKWERRE, i wonder if i'll even have a break.



Been thinking about life generally and have come to the conclusion that really i have nothing to complain about. God has indeed been good. Am still a size 14 no weight gone down, but i mean they still have some hot designs and baffs in size 14 ooooo. That has been on the top list of my worries ooo, my weight. Have been gyming anyway and eating so healthy, fruits, wheat bread and cereals, lots of water, salads but am loving me for now.





My boss has been my number 2 complaint - ok God has given me new bosses. I hope its all professional etc etc. No need to look at anyone's face seriously.Just get the work done.



DH is good gradually adapting to our "cosmopolitan marriage" begining to do the little things that i consider important. Help me out with lil stuff, i wont mention before you Nigerian guys will start saying ur own lol.... anyway i have learnt from me and DH that yes God, is a perfecter and He makes all things beautiful, it's only a matter of time. I cant believe i get sad when he doesn't kiss me bye bye etc...., my friend has complained that her hubby staied away from home for 6 days without a word, And here i am saying hubby doesn't open doors, kiss me hello and good bye, gist with me when am cooking in the kitchen.............. such petty stuff that he can do easily and has now started to do..........




Ermmm what else.. this is my random post. I have been selling my big bags o. I have actually almost finished selling. I need to before i start my new "serious job". This job thing is making me happy am so relieved because i was ready to disappoint my dad and yes START SELLING BAGS oooo. what's my own. I am one that derives joy from doing what i like, since i like law and it hasnt been going for me, i might as well buy bags, cos i love bags, but since i can't wear all the bags. I can sell some. Hasn't been easy cos of gbase masters lol. But am greatful it won't be my profession any longer.




Thats that i will think of more things and blog alot cos i see myself not blogging so often in the near future.


Whats been happening in blogsville? let me run round and go check like a lil amebo...

On Fitness

Wow am here in Denver - Colorado, and i hear its one of the healthies states in the US, Went for a football match this morning it was good. I hope i come back with the whole fitness fever too cos am really impressed. Did you know maintaining a good fitness approach is also good for your self esteem.


I know am just blabing, truth is i doubt i have much to blog about these days. You guys enjoy your weekend.

This My God

Everyone's screeming update, update, update.... truth is my blog is meant to be about the WONDERFUL WORLD of me, nothing wonderful has been happening so i have been still and trust me you wont like me if i start my ranting on here.




I am currently away on holiday so will blog well well cos guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I GOT THE LAW FIRM JOB!!!!!(I mean i know i must have told you guys about loads of interviews and loads of offers) Tis is one of the big firms i have cried and asked why my case is different and how i no fit enter. The email is sitting in my box, i passed the test and interview and will be called soon.



To think i just told my boss i was going away etc, and he let me, hoping to have me back. You dont want to know how hot i feel. Will have to buy me my favorite COCO MADMOSELLE as a lil sumfink for the lil gal in me....... Ths is to me being happier, more fufiled in my job, and i trust it will affect other aspects of my life. This is to me getting my bambino, to my Dearest dearest Hubby for enduring my complaining and frustration. The well deserved job has come ooooooooooooooooo. Am i going on and on??????




Ok i arrived my final destination this morning after some days in yes DUBAI finally......... It is a lovely place, i was there alone but i still managed to have fun, I must go there again wiv my people.... (u kno urselves).



Seeing that am going to be so busy when i start my new job, u know all those efico firms that close late and all, i wonder.... Finally am going to get to work with people, my first real job ever!!!!!!!! yay.




That reminds me. My first job was in a doctors clinic, then my cousins law firm, then the firm i did my attachment in, then this........ never really had a real interview, always family friends etc. I just hope its challenging cos i dont want to see my self comlaining some months down the line. I will give this place at least 4 years ie if the legal dept of that Bank doesnt call me soon.



Ermmmm People travelled 14 hours from Dubai and just finished cooking my brother-in-law a big pot of delicious stew. Will catch you guys later...... theres so much to talk about dot even know where to start. Kai havent even called my hotness

Update Already

Nothings been happening to me. Somehow didnt want to bore u guys with my should i resign, i want to sell big bags and all that gist.

My Dads been a bit ill so i have been worried, because he means so much to me. I should tell him that more often.

Ermmm in all my younger sister passed her bars, but they say she locked herself indoors cos she made a pass been trying her fone all day. The girl tried cos law school aint easy. So this one goes out to her Rossy CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! You have done us proud again baby and we love you so much. I wish you all the best and you wont look for job as much as me ok love. Don't mind those law school people they don't know who to give what grades to.

What else, will tell you guys when am sure, but yep am planning a holiday and yep am planning to resign........... and ooops my DH is fine.

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

Someone sent me this. What do you reckon?

Just something to meditate on for those of us that are married, those thinking about it and those newly weds. During one seminar, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fall in love with your spouse. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse/partner wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something exciting just engulfed you. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage/courtship, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse/partner might start asking, "Did I marry the right person? Or am I dating the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.

This is when marriages/relations hips breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage/relationship for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious (mostly men). But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage/relationship, it lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else, you could, & TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSH IP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labour of love"; because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage/relationship work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.

There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage/relationship. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can "make" love.

Love in marriage/relationship is indeed a "decision".. .. Not just a feeling.

Am next in line for a miracle

Yesterday was more than i imagined. Haven't gotten the job yet and no it's not the Lekki one.

I was on my way to some meeting and i got the call at 5 Mins past 1 asking that i come to a certain Bank at 2pm. I thought to myself 2pm in Lagos with all the traffic. I tried to negotiate my way to getting there for 3pm or maybe the next day. I wondered what it was and i wasn't properly dressed, but i made up my mind to go anyway.

It was the nicest interview i had had in years and it was for the legal department, something i had been hoping and scrambling for. Does it mean that in Nigeria if you don't know someone nothing for you? I mean there was no formal vacancy announcement. I am grateful all the same, but it's not fair. Results are not out yet but me being me and being anxious for nothing. I believe I'll get the job, the lady seemed interested and i expect to hear from them soon. For now I've been planning my exit, thanking God i wouldn't end up in Lekki for the same salary and working conditions. Thanking God i listened to a certain cousin of mine (she asked me to learn to pray for myself and listen/ wait for God's direction).

I have so much hope and soon i Will be celebrating this job and as a human being waiting for my actual bump. It's difficult to get your mind away from that. Great things are happening and for me they come in hundreds of folds.

Lord am expectant, Lord am thankful.

I'll keep u guys posted and yes this means in due time i will turn down the Lekki offer. My time to be settled has come......

BUMP

Basically nothings been happening so i have nothing to blog about.

I hope the birthday dinner we are going for tonight would be eventful, maybe I'll have something to say.

I got interviewed for a new job and got the offer, its in Lekki, dunno how i will do the mad traffic so am undecided. Because it's not much different from what i do now, one man show etc etc....

OK that's all folks.

Atkins Diet

I did this diet 3 years ago. I guess i only followed the induction and didn't follow up. Once again the heat is on, i have dusted myself up and am ready to give it another go. I have also dusted my Billy Blank's Boot Camp DVD (woke up at 4.30 and worked it) There are so many theories of how the Atkin's is a bad diet etc, but........ am going to see my doctor (thanks to my darling Keke) on Wedenesday.

Phases
There are four phases of the Atkins diet: induction, ongoing weight loss, pre-maintenance and lifetime maintenance

Induction
The Induction phase is the first, and most restrictive, phase of the Atkins Nutritional Approach. It is intended to cause the body to quickly enter a state of ketosis. Carbohydrate intake is limited to 20 net grams per day (grams of carbohydrates minus grams of fiber, sugar alcohols, or glycerin), 12 to 15 net grams of which must come in the form of salad greens and other vegetables. The allowed foods include a liberal amount of all meats, fish, shellfish, fowl, and eggs; up to 4 ounces (113 g) of soft or semi-soft cheese; salad vegetables; other low carb vegetables; and butter and vegetable oils. Alcoholic beverages are not allowed during this phase [1]. Caffeine is allowed in moderation so long as it does not cause cravings or low blood sugar. If a caffeine addiction is evident, it is best to not allow it until later phases of the diet.[2] A daily multivitamin with minerals is also recommended.
The Induction Phase is usually when many see the most significant weight loss — reports of losses of 5 to 10 pounds per week are not uncommon when Induction is combined with daily exercise.
Atkins suggests the use of Ketostix, small chemically reactive strips used by diabetics. These let the dieter monitor when they enter the ketosis, or fat burning, phase.
Weight loss will vary by person, especially based on the amount needed to lose, but most people average approximately 10% of their total weight loss within the Induction period. Other indicators of ketosis include a metallic taste in the mouth, or bad breath.

Ongoing weight loss
The Ongoing Weight Loss (OWL) phase of Atkins consists of an increase in carbohydrate intake, but remaining at levels where weight loss occurs. The target daily carbohydrate intake increases each week by 2 net grams. A goal in OWL is to find the "Critical Carbohydrate Level for Losing" and to learn in a controlled manner how food groups in increasing glycemic levels and foods within that group affect your craving control. The OWL phase lasts until weight is within 10 pounds (4.5 kg) of the target weight. At first weeks you should add more of the induction acceptable vegetables to your daily products. For example, 6-8 stalks of asparagus, salad, one cup of cauliflower or one half of avocado. The next week you should follow the carbohydrate ladder Dr Atkins created for this phase and add fresh dairy. The ladder has 9 rungs and should be added in order given. One can skip a rung if one does not intend to include that food group in one's permanent way of eating such as the alcohol rung.
The rungs are as follows:
Induction acceptable vegetables
Fresh dairy
Nuts
Berries
Alcohol
Legumes
Other fruits
Starchy vegetables
Grains

Pre-maintenance
Carbohydrate intake is increased again this time by 10 net carbs a week from the ladder groupings, and the key goal in this phase is to find the "Critical Carbohydrate Level for Maintenance", this is the maximum number of carbohydrates you can eat each day without gaining weight. This may well be above the level of carbohydrates inducing ketosis on a testing stick. As a result, it is not necessary to maintain a positive ketosis test long term.

Lifetime maintenance
This phase is intended to carry on the habits acquired in the previous phases, and avoid the common end-of-diet mindset that can return people to their previous habits and previous weight. Whole, unprocessed food choices are emphasized, with the option to drop back to an earlier phase if you begin to gain weight.

And so

My weekend was nice. My time at home even better.



I went to see my mother-in-law, who sat me down for hours teaching me some little facts about being a woman. I saw a very strong woman in her and i admire her perseverance. She has a very small frame and is very quite but you will know she is a wise woman. People came in numbers to see her, you could read the kind of respect they have for her from their body language. It was a time of reflection for the woman. She showed me loads of pictures of the good old days. In all i had a peaceful time. Above all she told me i was beautiful (because i refused to eat much, claiming i wanted to loose weight). For the two nights we prayed and prayed. Now i see why her son always refers to her as a virtuous woman. I must confess she truly is.





BTW does anyone know the leaf called Uziza, it's bitter? because she has recommended i try to eat it at least twice a week "so i don't fall sick" am sure there's more to it. My younger sister has said her friend's eat it for" you know what" am just curious.



Am back at work now, our new office manager has started work yay!



I miss DH, yesteday night i twisted my arm and dislocated it, had to scream for my sister to come and HELP. He would have done it better or maybe if he was around it wouldn't have happened cos i wouldn't have been rolling from one side of the bed to the other..........................



I also feel some kind of peace within me, like something has happened or is about to happen.



A great way to start my month, i wish myself and you guys the best month ever.

Happenings

Been making cold calls, calling firms to speak to their practice managers and i have gotten my c.v into the hands of many. The last man i called a partner of high reputation in Nigeria, i met at a conference earlier on in the year, (i have done 2 tests in that firm and 2 interviews, they will think am a die hard) anyway my c.v is in his inbox, nice old man, he has promised that it's going to be good.

Because i know if i get a "busier" job i wont feel too redundant and therefore wont feel so bad anymore (i hope).

DH travelled yesterday, so hopefully when he gets back i'll be slimmer, happier and ready to start cooking him nice meals again. Did i mention that because i have been sad/ bored i havent been cooking anything special. I made a big pot of stew and small soup and we have been doing yam, rice, pasta and stew over and over again. Am a good wife but i guess i had reached my boiling point. Please i have noted don't worry or chill advice i have heard enough already, thanks. Am just trying to write thats all.

And DH would be refreshed and bring back lots of pressies as always. Awww i missed him yesterday night already, it's funny how you get used to lieing next to someone everyday of your life. But on a lighter note there shall be no form of cooking by me for 2 weeks, am on home duties vacation wow! And lets hope the weight goes off.

Am off to hang out with my mother in-law on friday, that's the burial date, tanx to me listening to advice for once. So hopefully i'll come back refreshed and ready to start work. I am seriously thinking of resigning, seriously. Cos am of the school that believes that no one deserves to be unhappy and i cut off things that make me that way.

Anyway am skipping work tomorrow, i don't care if am the last man standing, that's just not my business anymore. As a christian i feel guilty that i use my firms resources to job hunt everyday. So lets say am staying away and that's the only thing i feel guilty about anyway.

I will come back with jist from the ancient city am visiting, for now wish me well.

Recently i have just been feeling my life is gradually becoming a boring circle. I keep telling my self things like i will go out more, i will get a better job so i can spend more on myself, take myself out etc, I will try to be a better daughter, sister, friend, even though all my friends and family relationships are now officially on the phone or the internet. I'm wondering is it just me?

Does anyone have ideas of things people can do on their own in Lagos, that obviously wouldn't require too much money being spent, or too much drama. Am gradually evolving and I DON'T LIKE IT.

Have a good weekend guys, mine would be typical - go to the gym and food shopping on Saturday, come home and cook the food. I haven't decided if i am loosening my hair or not. Then Sunday after church go swimming and come back home to watch T.V - What a bore. I got home yesterday to meet my lil sister sobbing, hope we dry people haven't rubbed off on the poor girl. She is turning more and more into what i am. Someone should tell her when i was her age i was excited, couldn't care and had lots of fun with my friends who are all evolving right now too. I always think of how it was for me when i stayed with SB we had so much fun and we gisted and gisted, we were just happy to be together, we hailed each other, we went out and did stuff, we were excited together sometimes too. Maybe the same stuff excited us. Am tired generally maybe i should take the poor girl to go see a movie, but she says that's so predictable. Those days even the food SB used to make was something i wanted to rush home to. I don't know maybe we're different my lil sis and i. Maybe the smallest things excite me.

I am generally bored and wonder how she will feel. Somebody help me already!

Witches huh

This past weekend! Am driving to the club alone! am in the gym for over 1 hour! No attacks! Am Floating and kicking my legs in water, my tummy is getting flatter. we get a buyer for our scrappy ride, I never thought any one will buy it! Oh my word i get an invitation for an interview today. Wow, am soaring!

DH is fine, thanks for all the messages, he is comforted with the knowledge that his darling sis is resting in a better place. The burial would be at the end of the month.

OK i watched and watched Tyra's show this weekend . I wonder of all things to talk about of course after Trump and how cheap she (Tyra) claims to be. How come she's always claiming to be cheap. She claims her clothes and shoes are cheap. But we go to the same stores and don't see the $5.00 pencil skirts, shoes and other lovely clothes she wears. Anyway am not beefing her and am digressing, maybe it's her body, maybe she's actually all that, that she will wear a $5 something and it will look like she got it from Prada or something.

On witches, that was one of the topics of her show. I never beleived there were serious "native doctors, witchcraft etc" abroad o!. She invited satanists, white witches, black/dark witches, and some other woman that found Christ after all her witch craft.

These people sounded like destruction, the white ones meaning pure or good or none evil i suppose. Claimed and taught the audience a popular love portion, some candles , some blah blah.. Na wa o. They talked about spells and all. One of the dark witches claimed she had the last breath of a murderer! i nu kwa! And that they send bitch slaps to people who offend them or do something, they can send job losses, and general bad luck. I just couldn't believe it, just like in all our Nigerian films. The satanists claimed that they weren't devil worshippers but their "religion" promoted freedom and indulgence! na wa o. I don't know i just watched and it occured to me that these are the end times.

We as Christians would need to be stronger in faith and proud to proclaim the gospel any where. Can you believe that the ex witch now born again said she was ministered to in a parking lot at the cinemas? It goes to tell us that we should never be weary of preaching and spreading the word of God. We must stand up for what we believe and know. Imagine witches coming out straight with no fear to talk about witch craft and demons on national t.v!!!

Sisters and brothers let's not just be hearers of the word, let's be doers. Please find some time to minister to someone today. It could even be by a good gesture.

Peace to you all.

BTW My test/ interview is by 4.30pm.

Speechless

My dh just called to say his elder sister died yesterday. She was nothing more than 35, single and ready to mingle and that's it just like that gone.

I am actually wondering what i'm supposed to do. Call his mum to say sorry? what? my tummy hurts it's so sad.

Rest of my day is spoilt, my dh is going to cry like a baby, he loved her to bits. I don't know i'm confused.

I must be loved or something

Am sure i mentioned how i started to go for Church in the Home very close to my house on Sunday evenings. Ok i must confess i only went once, but it was wonderful. There were just 3 nice families attending, all upward mobile professionals, with one common interest GOD! i made them 3 and a half seeing we agreed that i would attend alone (i'll blog about this church issue when it becomes perfect). It was really nice i don't know why i never went again after the first time. I guess its because i find myself doing everything on Sunday. I have been praying for orderliness and time management.

OK to my uttermost embarrassment/ surprise on Sunday evening i was on my way to go get some stuff (at 7pm, what was i doing all weekend) then i saw a whole bunch of cars and people coming into my gate. I just said hi and kept walking. Then i hear SISTER A KEL!!!, guess who - the whole bunch all three families and their kids coming to my humble abode to see me, not good that i haven't been attending, but i felt so important, so loved, so missed, so everything, maybe i have found that bunch of correct friends i have been searching for. OMG it was awesome. I couldn't believe it. Even DH must have noticed cos he was just running around making sure they were comfortable, he even brought out our nice bottle of wine we had been saving for i wonder what!

We sat, chatted and generally talked about the word of God, they prayed, they blessed us and then they left. And they liked our house or so they said! My DH sat in all through, carrying the kids playing and being very social, i was dazed, normally he would either go away to get what i wanted to get earlier, or just sit there and obviously not be interested. Is this a sign of greater things to come. I kept remembering the very words that have encouraged and kept me going " have i not told you a Kel, that i will make all things beautiful in my own time".

Progress in my driving

Yesterday for the first time i was allowed to drive (for 2 minutes from the road to our house) "my" car that they have not even let me touch. I have been cruising in one old banger like that trying to become a master of the road. They claimed that one other brand new car which i am referring to as "my" car was bought for me. Am trying still haven't used gear 3 though. This weekend i'm going to try drive some distance. Fingers are crossed that i look back at this soon and laugh.

Just Curious

Yesterday my DH's friend called from the states to say she is getting married and wanted me to be an ashebi (is that how it's spelt?).Thing is i don't even know who she is and i honestly always thought ashebi was for single ladies so they can dance and dance and possibly be taken.

It's not the case in Lagos anyway so i have since started trying to change my mentality. I miss the east and life as a Londoner man! Lagos is just one........of a place,no offence but most people don't know and have never heard of the simple life here. (OK I'll leave that topic for next time.)

DH respects this friend and has told me so much about her,how she's a doctor, how she did this and did that. Am sure he'll be gutted if i try to discourage him from attending. Truth is she is his elder brother's ex girlfriend. I live in a modern world but sincerely don't think it'd be nice to go for her wedding, and she's here talking about ashebi!!!! I mean this elder brother isn't married yet. I don't know, just asking because i have heard from lots of people that the way i think sometimes is back ward!

Anyway i have serious styles in mind, for the 2 different types of reigning fabrics since i am suspecting it could be either of the two (Ankara - I'll make a lovely sleeveless 3 quarter length.................... and 2. some show through french lace dunno what it's called - the see through material would make flared sleeves and I'll have taffeta..............) No am not giving away my styles, seeing that DH is buying and paying i will gladly accept the material.

What would you do? encourage DH to buy the material and both of u go for the wedding. Or buy the material and end up not going or what? Just curious. And the wedding is next month in Benin!

Big Brother

BB Africa started yesterday, i stayed awake till 1am trying
to get to know the house mates, imagine! My dh swore the Nigerian girl was ibo,
trying to yab me somehow, anyway i just read from Bella Nijias blog that she's
not. Good.

They all seem ok to me, although i feel some of tem have lied
about their real ages. Can you imagine a man from Kenya saying he's 23. Anyway
amist all the chaos and trying to impress one another i liked the babe from
South Africa, she speaks dirty a bit but i looked past it cos shes only trying
to make sure she doesnt come across as jew at all. Besides taht i think i like
her, she is confident and will flow with everyone. Theres also a "fashion
designer" in the house kaaaa tailor come say na fashion designer. Ok no hating,
she looks pretty shaa and din't lie about her age. They all ended up
cooking some junk food our poor Nijia girl drank water all along, and my sister
kept saying she should rush the free apples, they cost N60.00 each here lol. I
think you should read about these people from Bella Nijias blog. I can give more
gossip later when am in the mood.

Mr I (my colleague that resigned last month) has helped the
other perosn left here get a job in the same organisation. So that makes me the
last man standing. O folam o (remaining me and my boss) 2 man office lol.

The Start of the weekend

First, my friend i was meant to go with, miscarriaged her baby, she was 27 weeks already. Anyway so am back to going in December. It's always fun to go with people so anyone intrested should be planning too.



Then for all you Nigerians with a mind for good investments, Access Bank shares are being sold now. I can't really say much but i know Zenith sold for N16 before and are now worth N66.00.


Nothing much has been happening to me. I succeeded in watching seasons 1 - 6 of 24 in 2 weekends, and desperate housewives. Thanks to my dh, we watched it like it was going out of fashion.

Jacobs Cross is back on Mnet wow, but this season seems very boring, i don't know why the whole programme feels funny to me now.

Did i mention i started my swimming lessons? well i can float now, so this weekend i hope to start moving like a fish in water. And yes i have been driving well well no bashes, no more soooo scared but i always have someone in the car.





Hope you guys have a fun filled weekend!

Overcomer!

I will overcome by the words of my own testimony.

It is well with me, my family, my business and my life.



My boss will not make me loose it in Jesus name...............

Lessons from Nollywood (Nigerian Movies)

Someone sent this to my mail box - Just for laughs.

1 . Every problem you have is spiritual.

2. In every romance movie, someone must die.

3. It is possible to hit a person without actually touching them!

4. Anyone who gets hit by a car dies immediately.

5. Poisoned food always tastes better.

6. The best way to make money is by visiting a 'Babalawo' / joining a cult sleeping with rich men.

7. One of a pair of twins (identical or not) is born evil.

8. There is never an end to your suffering, except death!

9. With a pastor ... all things are possible.

10. A movie can be titled anything... such as: *The boy is mine, * Face me, I face you *Two rats, *Spanner, *Calculator, *Igala, *Ijele, *Igodo, *Igudu, *Shigidi, *Eran Iya Oshogbo , *Ta longbe mu.

11. A movie has not been made if at least one actor/actress has not- 'shelled', twisted his/her lips to speak wrong phonetics'.

12. You are in love... you want to take your girl out, the best place you take her to is... *Mr. Biggs/Tantalizers: where you'll most probably see an ex while feeding each other. *The beach: where it is imperative that you ride a donkey and carry her playfully. *Or the best: take her to buy some new ugly clothes.

13. An Igbo movie has been made if ... * You visit a 'Babalawo' * A fleet of cars is shown off at regular intervals for a total of half of the movie time. * Kanayo 'O' Kanayo is in the movie. Pete Edochie is also there too! * To get rich it is mandatory you join a cult

14. Gun shots and knock-outs sound the same!

15. Sometimes the title has absolutely nothing to do with the movie and other times, once you read the title and see the poster you know it all!!! (Also the soundtrack gives you a headache because it just narrates the whole story repeatedly - so much for suspense and intrigue!)

16. A love story has not been produced if it does not have one or two of the following actresses- * Stella Damascus * Stephanie Okereke * Genevieve Nnaji * Omotola Jalade * Rita Dominic

17. The police are extremely 'efficient' unlike their counterparts in real life.

18. An actress can wear the same hairdo for more than a year and even in longer flashbacks.

19. It is permissible to wear very dark shades at night!

20. When you are shot in the chest, it really doesn't matter; your head will be bandaged! Same for your legs!

21. When advertising a movie, you really should shout because... people are deaf?

22. When you are extremely poor, you will still be able to afford-a beautiful house, very good furniture, T.V., nice clothes, but you won't be able to send your kids to school.

23. Most especially in Yoruba movies, your gateman must be inefficient and comical. He MUST dress like a freak, be rude to all your visitors and never mind his business.

24. the bad guy always dies or gets caught by none other than the police- LOL!!!!

25. At the end of a three hour movie you’ll be reminded that THIS IS JUST THE BEGINNING…WATCH OUT FOR PART 2!

26. No matter the type of movie…TO GOD BE THE GLORY is always at the end

Am i bored?

Just sitting around doing random things. Am happy i discovered blogging or else boredom would have had the better part of me by now. I am beginning to see the fun side to loads of stuff, and finally feel my age- YOUNG. I am one of those who have always felt old and auntish, when i was 13 i acted 19, when i was 20 i acted 30 etc.

Yesterday i spoilt myself got me a lovely necklace (no details), then today after playing around face book, i decided it's time for me to visit another continent. So yes i have shifted my Dubai plans/dreams forward... AM GOING TO DUBAI or so i hope. Just spoke to my dh's friend's wife (long connection, but we rap tehehehe) who has so fallen for the place and is planning a shopping trip/spree so yours truly has been invited to officially tag along. It's even better seeing i was planning to go on my own in December.

OK this is just my random mushing post. I hope i will be able to buy nice things, i hear they sell kponkios gold there (Sisbee u intrested)! i hear they have Ikea (i love to shop for the home so much, its an addiction now), i hear they have Zara! yay! LOASCM - they have Zara! Seeing that you have invited all except me to Italiano.

I got invited to Wole Soyinka's play at Terra Culture on Sunday, now that's my kind of outing! , i remember when i dreamt of reading out my own poetry in one open night, my nerves failed me big time, and on Friday to see Harry potter(couldn't say no) so i shall be there at .... didn't even ask. Note that i like freebies but none of these outings are free, i am a grown woman now o! (back in the days i always used to tag along for free o, i remember once i got invited for a birthday, i rushed baffed when i got there without a penny in my bag, just my cards shaa which i denied, they asked us to pay £21.00 at the door. Me ke! i almost turned back lol). See me see paying for Dubai and hotel, the young shall surely grow or maybe i have arrived!

And no please i don't want anyone to give me a list of things to buy. Am not even sure am going.

What will i tell my poor old man (my boss who is currently away in Hawaii enjoying with his family hummm) OK enough said am going home. Tomorrow is another Lands registry day for me and i intend to jump work Praiiiiiiseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I love my profession but don't exactly like my office or job here.

OK am out!

8 Random Things About Me

I got tagged by Drno!

1. I'm an Internet junkie - When i was a kid i used to forget my self playing those game boys and Nintendo. Funny thing was i never owned one, always belonged to friends but i colonized. Now it happens to me and my Internet could it be connected the sign of an internet kid being born, It's like an addiction.

2. I'm picture crazy - i love taking and being taken, collecting and viewing, I'm crazy about photos and pictures. I can spend hours on end posing and reposing for a single shot. I actually have plans of taking my hobby a step higher! watch my space!

3. I have never failed an exam before - I'm sure this applies to so many other itk's (i too knows), but strange thing is am not a nerd, not a first class student but i just somehow have managed to scale through. (Not taking any more exams though cos now i am scared).

4. I love my dad so much. He's just perfect. Sometimes i wish i could go back to my childhood just to live with the man again. In my uni and secondary school days, i could never stay away for 10 days without jetting home, everyone used to tease me. I just secretly wanted to see him, cos he always and still makes me feel perfect. He gave me my wonderful mentality. ( I had written this on a paper last week sisbee so i guess that is something we have in common)

4.Been learning to drive for the past 10 years - i learn a bit, i stop a bit. It's getting embarrassing. Now i can actually move a car but am scared of other cars on the road.HELP!

5. Sometimes i think i have a dual personality - i can be very shy and into my self, in fact i prefer to be left alone (when i was younger i felt it was great to cry myself to sleep, i try it sometimes these days but i am too old now), then the other part of me is very out going, loves to travel, loves gist and can barely mind her own business.

6. I am terrible at keeping in touch - am the be there for the moment kind of person. It's terrible cos i have lost a lot of wonderful friends, i call and visit the people around me, once they move away, it's so hard for me to just keep up. Maybe am a physical person. I just hope my hubby wont have to move away for too long o. The last time he was away, i barely called him, he didn't understand what it was cos it was cheaper for me to reach him, but he's a dear so kept calling anyway.

7. I love reality T.V - as long as it's reality T.V I'll watch it, i can't believe i stay awake to watch girls of the playboy mansion! now that's the height.

8. I OFFICIALLY Love big bags - Kai.

Am tagging Life of a Stranger called me, Ebony, Pamela stitch, Princess, Confused Girl, Anuboy and Nyemoni that is if u guys haven't already been tagged.

Miracle Banks!!!!

Remember i promised to talk about some "investment" i ventured into. OK i must confess i put a little of my hard earned money in one of these miracle banks that are all over the papers. I was warned but i had and still have hope. Because some friend of ours had told how he knew someone, that knew someone that had returns of over 20 million Naira and was planning to buy a house. I was tempted.

What are these wonder banks? - They promise outrageous int rests, basically You get returns of over 100% your original investment sum, after a few weeks. CBN hasn't said anything negative so far, they only warned us (the public to be careful).

I received this email from one of my co-investors today (the mentioned miracle bank isn't the particular one my money is in though). Here's for u guys to stay clear just in case you were thinking of it.

Miracle Bank Crashes, Depositors' Money Trapped, Operators Vanish

By Tokunbo Olajide

Sooner than expected, the bubble may have burst for investors in miracle finance schemes now in vogue, especially in Lagos and Ibadan . There are indications that the wonder banks have started crashing a few months after they hoodwinked thousands of depositors with jumbo interest as a bait so that they could lodge their money with the voodoo banks.At least 10 depositors who deposited various sums of money with Treasure line Interlink Limited, one of the wonder banks, met the office under lock and key yesterday when they went to claim their huge interests which were due for collection.

The confused depositors waited endlessly in front of the No. 29, Airport Road , Ajao Estate, Lagos , office of the investment company, with none of the officials on sight. The officials have apparently vanished into thin air.The distraught depositors went back to the office today in the hope that the officials would come but they were utterly disappointed as nobody was around while the place remained shut.One of the distressed investors had misgivings that it was either the agents of Treasure line had fled with their money, or something else was wrong.“I’ve been coming here regularly in the last two weeks and none of them (the agents) has showed up to offer any explanation,” he lamented.Another victim told P.M.News she had tried severally to reach one of the agents on phone but her call had either been rejected, or the respondent had dismissed it as a “wrong number.”The woman, however, insisted she couldn't’t be calling the wrong person, for she had earlier been contacting the said agent on that same number before everything went awry.P.M.News similarly tried to reach the fleeing fund managers on two GSM numbers given to depositors, but the calls couldn't’t go through. One of the numbers, 08033770185, belonging to one of the agents, named Banji, rang severally, but he ignored the call. He later switched off his phone.

Another investor complained that the last time he met the Treasure line agents in their office, they assured him his interest would be ready by “week 26” (two weeks ago), by which time he was to check back. He did check back but the operators had disappeared.He said he later learnt that they had another office in Egbeda area of Lagos , which he visited on yesterday morning. Those he met there, however, dissociated themselves from whatever transactions he had with Ikeja agents, as it was “purely their own business.”P.M.News learnt that some of the operators showed up at the Ikeja office last Thursday. A lady among them was said to have been beaten up by some angry depositors, who became apprehensive when they were told their interests were not ready. Since then, the place had been locked.It is not clear whether the Ikeja and Egbeda outlets are liaison offices of Treasure line which has its main office in Ibadan . If the operators of the Lagos outlets were merely acting as free agents to the wonder bank, then it may be easy for them to abscond with depositors’ funds.None of the distraught depositors accepted to disclose their identity, but one of them said he invested N1.2 million with the defaulters.Another said he lodged N40, with them.

P.M.News gathered that the minimum amount of deposit Treasure line has been accepting in the last two months is N10,500 which would attract an interest of N20,000 by the end of three weeks.Treasure line, among numerous other miracle fund managers have lately been enjoying high patronage from thousands of desperate investors who are attracted by jumbo interests being offered at very short periods.However, the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) has, since two weeks ago, repeatedly been warning the vulnerable public to be wary of the wonder banks, noting that those investing with them were “doing so at their own risk.”The outlets are registered by the Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC) as fund managers. But the CBN insists they were “not licensed” by it to collect deposits from the public, thus they were doing an “illegal business.”

The Director, Banking Supervision, CBN, Mr. Ignatius Imala, had said that even though investigations into activities of some of them showed that their core activities did not contravene the law, they were not authorised to collect deposits from the public.Imala, who spoke at the Bankers Committee Meeting in Lagos weeks ago, said the CBN would issue a public notice soon to warn members of the public regarding the emergence of wonder banks.According to him, “nobody has been informed by the CBN that fund managers are to raise capital from anywhere. I am not aware that the CBN has given that type of authorisation that fund managers exist. Fund managers are not under the supervisory jurisdiction of CBN. But any moment from now there will be a public advertorial to warn members of the public regarding their emergence.“Apart from the deposit money banks that are supposed to take money from the public, anyone who gives his money to such fund managers, does so at his own risk.”Central Bank has started publishing the advertorial in national newspapers on the danger of patronising the voodoo banks.

In its edition of 9 April 2007, The NEWS magazine wrote extensively on these miracle banks and the shady manner they transact their business.According to the magazine, “investors are advised to be wary of finance and investment houses whose owners lack integrity and credibility. Late last year, operators of an illegal finance company, Spring of Wealth International Limited, which had Olayinka Oyele as Chairman), Ilufuye Opeyemi (Director of Finance) and Abraham Joseph (Director of Operations), were arrested by the EFCC, following a complaint from a customer who later became a victim. “The finance house, situated at Suite 31 , Kalejaiye Shopping Complex, 105 Lebanon Street , Old Gbagi Market in Ibadan , has been engaged in illegal receipt of deposits from members of the public despite having not been licensed by the Central Bank of Nigeria , CBN, to operate as a financial institution.“Before the arrest of the trio, the company had over 115,000 subscribers. The company’s bait for prospective depositors was the promise of outlandish interests, sometimes as high as a 100 per cent return on deposits within weeks of such lodgment.

The EFCC disclosed that apart from the company not possessing the licence, it also lacked the cash back-up or an insurance cover to sustain the operations.“Located at Suite 47 , Akande Shopping Complex, Lagos motor park, Sango, Ibadan , is Treasureline Interlink. Treasureline, which also has two other offices in Lagos , offers slots and a pay-off of about three months. The period could come sooner or later, depending on how soon it sells the slots for each operational week. An investor who deposits for seven slots of N14,300 is promised a jumbo payoff of N30,000 in 12 weeks or less. Investment of N29,500, representing 15 slots, yields 70,000 in 12 weeks or less. For 63 slots of N120,700, pay-off in three weeks equates N310,000, while the big one of N2,457,400 for 2,047 slots offer a pay-off of N10.23 million in 12 weeks or less. “Every pay-off is subjected to a 5 per cent VAT deduction. Payment is made in cash for manageable amounts and cheques for larger amounts. But for week 12, the company resorted to the Flash-me Credit system of First Inland Bank.Treasureline has not disclosed to customers what they do with money placed with it. An inquisitive customer who requested for the information was denied it on the pretext that previous experience has taught them that people lean on that knowledge to form their own investment companies. The sponsor of the scheme is one Isaac Ademola Kolade. The managing director of the company, this magazine gathered, doubles as a lecturer at the Department of Chemistry, Ibadan Polytechnic.”Investigations revealed that top security agents and bank workers patronise the wonder banks that is why they operate as if they are above the law.

It's my party!!!

No i didn't cry. Had alot of fun can't believe so many people showed up. How did i feel? Splendid. I'll tell about my unexpected presents in my next post.

Here -a few pictures of my cakes!

A short prayer

May the Lord bless you and keep you,
May He make His face to shine upon you and be gracious unto you,
May the Lord lift up the light of His countenace on you and give you peace both now and forever,
Amen.

Till Partnership do us

It all started in April. Me tired of staying home and watching t.v/ Playing on the Internet/eating and getting fatter all day, decided it was time to take a job, any job. Notice i said take not seek for. I always had and still have this belief that i would work in a big or major oil company (don't we all) but while waiting i could work anywhere, preferably a firm.

So i got employed and started to work excitedly in a nice small and cute firm (i thought the space was too small initially). The interior decoration was great, the people very descent and friendly, a great working environment in a good location also, 20 Mins away from home minus the traffic of course. There was room for growth and to learn. It seemed like a place i would like to be in for a while, i could take holidays, i could have some kind of liberty. And yes i was promised i would be trained, stability,i would in no distant time become a Partner yes PARTNER. I set out advertising, marketing and seeking to expand my new found wonderland. I was sent to represent the firm in conferences including one abroad just weeks after my new employment, i was truly blessed and thought i had found favour.

It's a few months down and the partner (as he calls himself i mean its a one man show) called me to say he's partnering with some bossy looking lady that comes to my office almost everyday and whispers when they meet. So that's what it was about. Her office is down the corridor from ours but she has another office in England and is always over there. We are not keeping our name or brand, we are not keeping our office space, we are not keeping Nada. I thought my dear "partner" had gone mad. I know it takes a while to be established but it's not time to be desperate yet. He asked my opinion and i told him to take his time ie if he hadn't made his mind up. In my mind my selfish thoughts were there... what about me? what about the trips to Singapore and other places i was promised? what will happen to me?

Now i understand why Mr. I left in a hurry at the end of last month, how could i have been so blind .He had told me it was because his new job was worth millions more than what he earns, but i was surprised because it had nothing to do with his profession and i knew for him money was secondary since he has loads of investments and businesses, he just wanted a nice place to get out to daily plus the "partnership" promise, even Miss P has been acting desperate, she's crossing almost 7 states this weekend to go for a test.

Yours truly has dusted her c.v and has decided to pursue her original dream. Her Own job in a multinational Oil company! My steps are still ordered wish me luck...... Being in Nigeria i must state that my only connection is God.

All is well.

I started my weekend making sure i had bought all we needed at home and there would be no excuses so i would go in peace for the total woman talk show. Thank God for my lil sister we had planned to work hand in hand to achieve my goal. Cos she was planning to go for a wedding her friends had claimed Nigerian "celebrities" would attend hummmm.

Ok first we decided to stay awake and cook deep into the night while we picked out my sister's baff, chatted and watched movies. We were long gone(sleep of course after a busy week) when we realised we had forgotten the food(s) on the fire, fortunately they were not burning yipeee. then wen we got to the kitchen, the gas had finished kai that was the begining. I knew it!

Ok we had to wait for the shops to open, buy the gas and continue from where we stopped.Lil sis agreed that it's best i rush off while she finishes up since hers was a wedding (bless her). I finally got to the Muson centre for 10.30am and the doors were closed, they were filming and i couldn't get in. I still wonder what i missed. Anyway i had an option to wait till they breaked but nah i tot i'll go home so lil sis can go have some fun. As soon as i got home it started raining poor girl.

Anyway we all finally attended DH's friends wedding that was more like a feast. With an Arabian night setting, every thing about the wedding was beautiful. The lights, decoration, the people, the couple... everything. This was my first Yoruba engagement/ wedding/night party/Muslim wedding. So i decided to respect myself, the weather and all and cover my body. But to my greatest shock men looking for 2nd wives prefer it wen u cover ur body o. Anyway i allowed dh to sit with his friends while i sat with lil sis and some of the other iyawos. A man old enough to be my grandfather comes to me and wisphers in my ear "my daddy wants to see you" waaaaaaaaat? that would be my great grand father. Although lil sis was of the view that it meant his chairman or something, You know someone he respects. I ignored them and their rot. How come the guys in this wedding seemed to be desperate. In Nigeria it's the women that people make out like desperados but the reverse was the case here. On our way out a guy (obviously single this time) followed me all the way to the car i didn't even notice. He was about to touch me when i heard DH warning him to stay clear from me or lil sis na wa o.

Sunday, i decided to be a good friend and go for an ex school mates baby's party. It was fun as lil sis was happy to tag along and we picked my lil niece too. I got home and felt funny like i was choking. After all my enjoyment and disappointment (missing the talk show) i ended up in the hospital and took those awful jabs in my veins after the nebulizer did me no justice. But i sat down all thru these parties i thought. All these aggravated attacks want to weigh a sister down. I know i need to loose some weight cos sisbee has advised so and i have learnt to listen to her advice over the years. I can't even walk successfully up my stairs so how will i loose weight without exercise???? i'll worry not , suggestions welcome.

All in all my weekend was good and eventful. Am sure next week is going to better cos ..................it's my birthday!!!!!! Am taking some days off work to "relax" i don't want any hinderances on my first birthday as a Mrs.- i feel like am going to be 1(one).

Maybe i really take things too seriously

Today i noticed something that made me start to ask myself questions. To doubt my very own wonderful self (in the past i would have felt blue all day) but i have learnt that in life you never really please everyone, you can only do your best to satisfy your christian conscience.

In a bid to find answers today i have asked my colleague and my dear cousin if what has happened has anything to do with me or was caused by me (i know i have a strong and determined/ dodged spirit that has kept me going and strong and enabled me to strive as a loner lost in thoughts of my own and a life/heart full enough to explode, yet i keep smiling.) Both have assured me that all is well, only hitch they say is that i strive too hard for perfection. Life is easy i shouldn't take things too seriously.

So in a strange twist of faith i started to count my blessings as these words came to me just like in Temmy's post - i am fearfully and wonderfully made. A perfect and chosen generation. I am unique and there is nothing i or anybody or what anybody thinks of me can do about it. I am not under condemnation, i am somebody in Christ. I am a wonder and still am , I am just like my FATHER - everything.

I have so so much to be thankful for -

From Abundance - to satisfied then to homelessness (a horrible experience i don't wish anyone at all) - Then now to a home i can decorate and call my own.

From loneliness, sadness and confusion - to looking forward to getting out of bed in the morning.

From Joblessness & dissatisfaction - to my faithful job in Aa

From Lavish spending and serious wasting - to pennylessness - to my own personal savings and priorities.

I have a devoted and selfless DH, My wonderful, supporting always ever present and faithful sisters, My loving Dad, Mum, cousins, friends and pals.

There's just too too much. I cant continue to count my blessings. He has set things straight in my life and am grateful. Looking back now i know that everything happened for a reason and in all things i have learnt to give thanks. God has a perfect plan for everyone.

I am consoled with the fact that no one deserves to be unhappy because of another.

There's a Total woman talk show on fashion and style, ur home,etc happening tomorrow at the Muson centre, presented by House on the Rock. I intend to be there life and direct, seeing it's a freebie. To register call 01 - 4614120.

Have a great weekend.

Are you a 'high maintenance' wife or girlfriend - emotionally??

or friend?


Basically it means that you create a lot of drama and work and tension for the wrong reasons.


The reasons can include these:


- to get attention.

- because you feel that he needs to "prove" that he loves you

- due to sheer boredom

- because you think that real love means you do a lot of shouting


Don't be a "high maintenance" wife or girlfriend. Love is supposed to be enjoyable and yes, FUN. When the fun goes out of life, then life drastically changes for all of us. It even affects your health.Life has enough stresses without adding to them on purpose.


Now if you recognize yourself here, the LAST thing you need to do is to start beating yourself up over it. We've all probably done this with others!! - you need a break today and to have FUN.

Missing us together

Am just reminiscing my good times, all these people and events would give u a sneak preview of me

My Sisters, My Mum - wow how have we drifted like this now. If anyone ever told me it was possible i'll never agree.

I miss the laughter and fun times- our house as it metamorphised from Toy Land, to match box people, then to the sister bee and u show, the prayer sessions, the scrambling over one small mr biggs, everything including the porridge plantain with Cod liver oil (cant believe we were forced to eat that yuck) and Green Shan Shandy lovely.

The songs - The butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker all in a rubber der der..... My mums better than ur mum........, Maybe it's because am a londoner.... that i think of it.............(singing)

The War between Dad and our o so many toasters. Locking those poor dudes up in the downstairs room.

The fights

Amy's sleeping outside cos they didnt take her to the dusty village, me sleeping on the cold floor in front of dads room cos they kicked me out. His bed was my bed... if only i knew then what i know now, so thats why they kicked me out ehr????? Hey!

The sad times- The hard times, challenges that came with Nne and her baby boom....

The one thing that we love and that bound us together DAD!!!

Ma gees... Kel lil lil, LOASCM, Kunnie, Oku, Keke,Ruthless - My all time VIP's, must say thanks for watching my back.

I miss the yabs, the girls night outs, all those dry(tehehehe) bbqs. (those were the days in Kunnie and Oku's flat, fresh out of uni, young and restless.) the cold nights, walking aimlessly and just making noise, singing, being us. The fish and plantain that seemed like heaven to us.I will never forget the day we were going to Nutts and decided to sit on first class cos we were just naughty...... that was the most embrassing day of my life, and it was with u guys.

I remember the pari at The roof top .... that some nigerian guy was giving away dollars to all the girls who attended........... that was the funniest day of ma life!It goes on and on.... (kunnie don born , shes married now, Oku just doesnt have my time anymore. LIFE).

I miss the fights, encouragement and of course ponder in ur eyes yes LOASCM- i always see that in ur eyes the look that goes this excited child! we have have had our break ups and make ups.

THE HARSH REALITY - Ruthie where r u man! we have come a very long way from those ISSU days in the forest, to working with the user -T-, to back to tis Lagos na wa o!

Keke - i just miss everything. Those sleepless law school nights, the yummy cooking. You taught me the meaning of friendship.

My inseperable Kel lil lil - I still love u loads and know u'll come across my blog someday, am speechless when it gets to u cos dunno where to start.

Miss T, Enes, Nana - OMG those days as foreigners in the Strand, we didnt even know our faith, what can i say. Thank God we made it.

Flex - So good things come to an end? never wanted it to end and u always said its not over till its over, after we saw as "pals" in chi-town, i knew IT WAS OVER. (yea the chi-town for my peps reading this, u never really get over pure and innocent whatever do u?)

Anyways that that, These are my memories, made me, moulded me, shaken me, moved me.

Am sure only 2 out of the many people in tis blog.

Is it in my mind - I feel eyes on me!!! (RANT)

The message in church yesterday must have been for me. I woke up late so praise God went to a church near my house and after so long finally heard a message for MOI!! miss that alot. Anyway it was very clear and simple "be anxious for nothing" be careful for nothing but with prayer and thanks giving make your request known to God. Am glad i went, glad i heard the word because the past month i found myself being my own real cheer leader and encouragement.

Recently almost everyone around me or that cares has been over anxious for me, i actually noticed it had gotten out of hand this weekend, my sister in law that tried to call me earlier in the week, so i decided to wake up early do my dailes and then stop off at hers on my way out. When i got to her door it was like an attack.

Sister in law - Why are you still wearing tight clothes?

Me in shock - sorry???

SIL - its not good for the baby, thats why i have been calling your fone. I just thought that if no

one had advised you i should do so as well as send my help down to help with house work etc..... (is this woman an amibo? really intrested? concerned? or what?)

Me - What berra mind ur biz or else i'll.......... no i wish i said that shaaa, i go i dont understand with my innocent face, something i do when i want to get out of a corner. I mean even if i am preggers i hate people in my bussiness.

SIL - Ok sorry not that your fat, you just look different, i advise you go for a test and scan.

I just told her i wasnt pregnant yet period, i mean if i was i wont be wearing my tight codroys and a belt on my tummy now. And what did she mean by no one has advised me? I've got 7 sisters please.

Anyway thats just the latest of the episodes people call to ask how junior is kicking in the tummy etc. Then when you try to talk about it with friends etc they just go on and on about how you should take your mind off it, it will come and such irritating remarks. I mean i have been on my own doing my thing, dieting exercising living my life generally then they keep asking any goodnews? when are we expecting baby? etc and if i feel up to it i try to update them (nosy pokers) before they carry on with their speeches that seem planned. Its almost as if they dont even want you to be sef (thse are people can never mind their business).

Another annoying one was my neighbour (some young gal that believes that marriage is an achievement if you leave her she will enter guiness book of records because in her words "you dont know that it's not easy, as soon as i finished uni, i got married o. It is my accomplishment" like its a competition and yes shes actually due any minute from now) comes to my house one saturday morning to "advice me", her aunty!!! DOES WE RAP????? i just listen to her with a mind to walk her out, but i listen she asks if am pg yet and would like me to know she'll be there if i need to ask any questions i tell her i will let her know, b4 she leaves she gives me 2 books and tells me that its for married people and people trying to concieve, that it really helps. That she read it well cos she didnt want people looking at her and that she admires m.e and wouldnt want anyone looking at me. IMAGINE, JUST IMAGINE...i had the mind to ask her not to come to my house again all these jobless tatafo neighbours gosh!

Ok enuff ranting, my blog isnt for ranting i have saved that for something else... But please i need someone that knows all these people to advise them to leave me alone o. I just got married some months ago. DID THEY SEE ME IN THEIR DREAMS.

Should i send out text messages simply saying "beloved be anxious for nothing" will they get the message?