Thursday, August 9, 2007

Just Curious

Yesterday my DH's friend called from the states to say she is getting married and wanted me to be an ashebi (is that how it's spelt?).Thing is i don't even know who she is and i honestly always thought ashebi was for single ladies so they can dance and dance and possibly be taken.


It's not the case in Lagos anyway so i have since started trying to change my mentality. I miss the east and life as a Londoner man! Lagos is just one........of a place,no offence but most people don't know and have never heard of the simple life here. (OK I'll leave that topic for next time.)


DH respects this friend and has told me so much about her,how she's a doctor, how she did this and did that. Am sure he'll be gutted if i try to discourage him from attending. Truth is she is his elder brother's ex girlfriend. I live in a modern world but sincerely don't think it'd be nice to go for her wedding, and she's here talking about ashebi!!!! I mean this elder brother isn't married yet. I don't know, just asking because i have heard from lots of people that the way i think sometimes is back ward!


Anyway i have serious styles in mind, for the 2 different types of reigning fabrics since i am suspecting it could be either of the two (Ankara - I'll make a lovely sleeveless 3 quarter length.................... and 2. some show through french lace dunno what it's called - the see through material would make flared sleeves and I'll have taffeta..............) No am not giving away my styles, seeing that DH is buying and paying i will gladly accept the material.



What would you do? encourage DH to buy the material and both of u go for the wedding. Or buy the material and end up not going or what? Just curious. And the wedding is next month in Benin!

21 comments:

Nyemoni said...

I don't speak yoruba, but I would spell it aso ebi, i.e, the fabric all the friends would wear...correct me if I am wrong... I think you could go based on 2 factors..1- if the friend is close to your hubby and 2 if you are free during the wedding period...that's what I'd take into consideration if I were you...

princesa said...

I dont get it. why wont it be nice to go for the wedding? Cos she was his elder bros' girlfriend.
That doesnt matter at all babe.
I think you should go for the wedding and have fun.

See you, still contemplating yet you already have the styles to sew in your head.Umu nwanyi!

Nyemoni said...

my addy's kalabari@gmail.com...

classybabe said...

Seems DH doesn't mind her being his brother's ex,so u should go if that's the only problem.
Don't think aso-ebi is just for single people though

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

a kel you are so backward. Did she asked you to come and join her train, as in, the single section. You this girl, you and your husband will b e wearing the same thing..

besides think of it this way, just because you are in a group of three friends, one falls out with the other, does that mean you too will not talk to the person just because her and whatever is fighting..lol..

thats basically the case here, she was a good friend of the family, its just a shame the elder bro and her didnt get along too well. Abi is it the trip to Benin that is killing you, shebi you said his people will be your people now, you don become benin babe now, start enjoying it. We will talk later.

30+ said...

My own motto rejoice with them that rejoice. anyhow you are already thinking of styles to sew so just go shoe and bag hunting (lol)

Sisbee said...

What concerns you with husbands elder brothers ex girlfriend fiance's cousin's grandmother? abeg go and eat rice.

Mrs Somebody said...

By the count of 5 will you go and sew that aso ebi.....????ehn??? 1....2......3.....

Aijay said...

I'll go for the wedding with hubby. What have I got to lose? Weddings are lovely!!
Make a very 'hot' outfit & oh, aso ebi is not for single ladies only.
Have fun!

femme said...

go to the wedding, the relationship doesnt count.
lol at sisbee's go eat rice.

Afrobabe said...

LOL...dead funny,first time here,u mentioned ur husband made fun of u cos u are ibo...might I ask where he comes from?Need all the encouragement I can get to settle down with a yoruba man,his traits get to me...bad bad!

Anonymous said...

its called aso -ebi..lol

chidi said...

why do you say it won't be okay to go for the wedding? Don't get that bit.

chidi said...

nice blog 2!

drNO said...

just go...
what's ashebi?

A Kel called Wonder ...... said...

@ Everyone - Seeing that not even one person understands me, then i have concluded am backward. I will go for the wedding !

@Afrobabe hubby is From Edo State. Am going off to ur page now to see for myself.

@Dr No - Asoebi is some kind of uniform made of Nigerian material a gropu pf friends or family wear at weddings and parties.

princesa said...

UPDATE!!

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

UPDATE Already!!!!!!

uknaija said...

Why would you not go?

oby said...

So as my friend,if I ask u to wear asoebi,u wont?

A Kel called Wonder ...... said...

@ Oby or Obyquity - you didn't read well i said i used think b4 now, and have since changed my mentality.

Please bring the asoebi - who's the lucky man and how comes Ij showed u this secret page ehr????