Overcomer!

I will overcome by the words of my own testimony.

It is well with me, my family, my business and my life.



My boss will not make me loose it in Jesus name...............

Lessons from Nollywood (Nigerian Movies)

Someone sent this to my mail box - Just for laughs.

1 . Every problem you have is spiritual.

2. In every romance movie, someone must die.

3. It is possible to hit a person without actually touching them!

4. Anyone who gets hit by a car dies immediately.

5. Poisoned food always tastes better.

6. The best way to make money is by visiting a 'Babalawo' / joining a cult sleeping with rich men.

7. One of a pair of twins (identical or not) is born evil.

8. There is never an end to your suffering, except death!

9. With a pastor ... all things are possible.

10. A movie can be titled anything... such as: *The boy is mine, * Face me, I face you *Two rats, *Spanner, *Calculator, *Igala, *Ijele, *Igodo, *Igudu, *Shigidi, *Eran Iya Oshogbo , *Ta longbe mu.

11. A movie has not been made if at least one actor/actress has not- 'shelled', twisted his/her lips to speak wrong phonetics'.

12. You are in love... you want to take your girl out, the best place you take her to is... *Mr. Biggs/Tantalizers: where you'll most probably see an ex while feeding each other. *The beach: where it is imperative that you ride a donkey and carry her playfully. *Or the best: take her to buy some new ugly clothes.

13. An Igbo movie has been made if ... * You visit a 'Babalawo' * A fleet of cars is shown off at regular intervals for a total of half of the movie time. * Kanayo 'O' Kanayo is in the movie. Pete Edochie is also there too! * To get rich it is mandatory you join a cult

14. Gun shots and knock-outs sound the same!

15. Sometimes the title has absolutely nothing to do with the movie and other times, once you read the title and see the poster you know it all!!! (Also the soundtrack gives you a headache because it just narrates the whole story repeatedly - so much for suspense and intrigue!)

16. A love story has not been produced if it does not have one or two of the following actresses- * Stella Damascus * Stephanie Okereke * Genevieve Nnaji * Omotola Jalade * Rita Dominic

17. The police are extremely 'efficient' unlike their counterparts in real life.

18. An actress can wear the same hairdo for more than a year and even in longer flashbacks.

19. It is permissible to wear very dark shades at night!

20. When you are shot in the chest, it really doesn't matter; your head will be bandaged! Same for your legs!

21. When advertising a movie, you really should shout because... people are deaf?

22. When you are extremely poor, you will still be able to afford-a beautiful house, very good furniture, T.V., nice clothes, but you won't be able to send your kids to school.

23. Most especially in Yoruba movies, your gateman must be inefficient and comical. He MUST dress like a freak, be rude to all your visitors and never mind his business.

24. the bad guy always dies or gets caught by none other than the police- LOL!!!!

25. At the end of a three hour movie you’ll be reminded that THIS IS JUST THE BEGINNING…WATCH OUT FOR PART 2!

26. No matter the type of movie…TO GOD BE THE GLORY is always at the end

Am i bored?

Just sitting around doing random things. Am happy i discovered blogging or else boredom would have had the better part of me by now. I am beginning to see the fun side to loads of stuff, and finally feel my age- YOUNG. I am one of those who have always felt old and auntish, when i was 13 i acted 19, when i was 20 i acted 30 etc.

Yesterday i spoilt myself got me a lovely necklace (no details), then today after playing around face book, i decided it's time for me to visit another continent. So yes i have shifted my Dubai plans/dreams forward... AM GOING TO DUBAI or so i hope. Just spoke to my dh's friend's wife (long connection, but we rap tehehehe) who has so fallen for the place and is planning a shopping trip/spree so yours truly has been invited to officially tag along. It's even better seeing i was planning to go on my own in December.

OK this is just my random mushing post. I hope i will be able to buy nice things, i hear they sell kponkios gold there (Sisbee u intrested)! i hear they have Ikea (i love to shop for the home so much, its an addiction now), i hear they have Zara! yay! LOASCM - they have Zara! Seeing that you have invited all except me to Italiano.

I got invited to Wole Soyinka's play at Terra Culture on Sunday, now that's my kind of outing! , i remember when i dreamt of reading out my own poetry in one open night, my nerves failed me big time, and on Friday to see Harry potter(couldn't say no) so i shall be there at .... didn't even ask. Note that i like freebies but none of these outings are free, i am a grown woman now o! (back in the days i always used to tag along for free o, i remember once i got invited for a birthday, i rushed baffed when i got there without a penny in my bag, just my cards shaa which i denied, they asked us to pay £21.00 at the door. Me ke! i almost turned back lol). See me see paying for Dubai and hotel, the young shall surely grow or maybe i have arrived!

And no please i don't want anyone to give me a list of things to buy. Am not even sure am going.

What will i tell my poor old man (my boss who is currently away in Hawaii enjoying with his family hummm) OK enough said am going home. Tomorrow is another Lands registry day for me and i intend to jump work Praiiiiiiseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I love my profession but don't exactly like my office or job here.

OK am out!

8 Random Things About Me

I got tagged by Drno!

1. I'm an Internet junkie - When i was a kid i used to forget my self playing those game boys and Nintendo. Funny thing was i never owned one, always belonged to friends but i colonized. Now it happens to me and my Internet could it be connected the sign of an internet kid being born, It's like an addiction.

2. I'm picture crazy - i love taking and being taken, collecting and viewing, I'm crazy about photos and pictures. I can spend hours on end posing and reposing for a single shot. I actually have plans of taking my hobby a step higher! watch my space!

3. I have never failed an exam before - I'm sure this applies to so many other itk's (i too knows), but strange thing is am not a nerd, not a first class student but i just somehow have managed to scale through. (Not taking any more exams though cos now i am scared).

4. I love my dad so much. He's just perfect. Sometimes i wish i could go back to my childhood just to live with the man again. In my uni and secondary school days, i could never stay away for 10 days without jetting home, everyone used to tease me. I just secretly wanted to see him, cos he always and still makes me feel perfect. He gave me my wonderful mentality. ( I had written this on a paper last week sisbee so i guess that is something we have in common)

4.Been learning to drive for the past 10 years - i learn a bit, i stop a bit. It's getting embarrassing. Now i can actually move a car but am scared of other cars on the road.HELP!

5. Sometimes i think i have a dual personality - i can be very shy and into my self, in fact i prefer to be left alone (when i was younger i felt it was great to cry myself to sleep, i try it sometimes these days but i am too old now), then the other part of me is very out going, loves to travel, loves gist and can barely mind her own business.

6. I am terrible at keeping in touch - am the be there for the moment kind of person. It's terrible cos i have lost a lot of wonderful friends, i call and visit the people around me, once they move away, it's so hard for me to just keep up. Maybe am a physical person. I just hope my hubby wont have to move away for too long o. The last time he was away, i barely called him, he didn't understand what it was cos it was cheaper for me to reach him, but he's a dear so kept calling anyway.

7. I love reality T.V - as long as it's reality T.V I'll watch it, i can't believe i stay awake to watch girls of the playboy mansion! now that's the height.

8. I OFFICIALLY Love big bags - Kai.

Am tagging Life of a Stranger called me, Ebony, Pamela stitch, Princess, Confused Girl, Anuboy and Nyemoni that is if u guys haven't already been tagged.

Miracle Banks!!!!

Remember i promised to talk about some "investment" i ventured into. OK i must confess i put a little of my hard earned money in one of these miracle banks that are all over the papers. I was warned but i had and still have hope. Because some friend of ours had told how he knew someone, that knew someone that had returns of over 20 million Naira and was planning to buy a house. I was tempted.

What are these wonder banks? - They promise outrageous int rests, basically You get returns of over 100% your original investment sum, after a few weeks. CBN hasn't said anything negative so far, they only warned us (the public to be careful).

I received this email from one of my co-investors today (the mentioned miracle bank isn't the particular one my money is in though). Here's for u guys to stay clear just in case you were thinking of it.

Miracle Bank Crashes, Depositors' Money Trapped, Operators Vanish

By Tokunbo Olajide

Sooner than expected, the bubble may have burst for investors in miracle finance schemes now in vogue, especially in Lagos and Ibadan . There are indications that the wonder banks have started crashing a few months after they hoodwinked thousands of depositors with jumbo interest as a bait so that they could lodge their money with the voodoo banks.At least 10 depositors who deposited various sums of money with Treasure line Interlink Limited, one of the wonder banks, met the office under lock and key yesterday when they went to claim their huge interests which were due for collection.

The confused depositors waited endlessly in front of the No. 29, Airport Road , Ajao Estate, Lagos , office of the investment company, with none of the officials on sight. The officials have apparently vanished into thin air.The distraught depositors went back to the office today in the hope that the officials would come but they were utterly disappointed as nobody was around while the place remained shut.One of the distressed investors had misgivings that it was either the agents of Treasure line had fled with their money, or something else was wrong.“I’ve been coming here regularly in the last two weeks and none of them (the agents) has showed up to offer any explanation,” he lamented.Another victim told P.M.News she had tried severally to reach one of the agents on phone but her call had either been rejected, or the respondent had dismissed it as a “wrong number.”The woman, however, insisted she couldn't’t be calling the wrong person, for she had earlier been contacting the said agent on that same number before everything went awry.P.M.News similarly tried to reach the fleeing fund managers on two GSM numbers given to depositors, but the calls couldn't’t go through. One of the numbers, 08033770185, belonging to one of the agents, named Banji, rang severally, but he ignored the call. He later switched off his phone.

Another investor complained that the last time he met the Treasure line agents in their office, they assured him his interest would be ready by “week 26” (two weeks ago), by which time he was to check back. He did check back but the operators had disappeared.He said he later learnt that they had another office in Egbeda area of Lagos , which he visited on yesterday morning. Those he met there, however, dissociated themselves from whatever transactions he had with Ikeja agents, as it was “purely their own business.”P.M.News learnt that some of the operators showed up at the Ikeja office last Thursday. A lady among them was said to have been beaten up by some angry depositors, who became apprehensive when they were told their interests were not ready. Since then, the place had been locked.It is not clear whether the Ikeja and Egbeda outlets are liaison offices of Treasure line which has its main office in Ibadan . If the operators of the Lagos outlets were merely acting as free agents to the wonder bank, then it may be easy for them to abscond with depositors’ funds.None of the distraught depositors accepted to disclose their identity, but one of them said he invested N1.2 million with the defaulters.Another said he lodged N40, with them.

P.M.News gathered that the minimum amount of deposit Treasure line has been accepting in the last two months is N10,500 which would attract an interest of N20,000 by the end of three weeks.Treasure line, among numerous other miracle fund managers have lately been enjoying high patronage from thousands of desperate investors who are attracted by jumbo interests being offered at very short periods.However, the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) has, since two weeks ago, repeatedly been warning the vulnerable public to be wary of the wonder banks, noting that those investing with them were “doing so at their own risk.”The outlets are registered by the Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC) as fund managers. But the CBN insists they were “not licensed” by it to collect deposits from the public, thus they were doing an “illegal business.”

The Director, Banking Supervision, CBN, Mr. Ignatius Imala, had said that even though investigations into activities of some of them showed that their core activities did not contravene the law, they were not authorised to collect deposits from the public.Imala, who spoke at the Bankers Committee Meeting in Lagos weeks ago, said the CBN would issue a public notice soon to warn members of the public regarding the emergence of wonder banks.According to him, “nobody has been informed by the CBN that fund managers are to raise capital from anywhere. I am not aware that the CBN has given that type of authorisation that fund managers exist. Fund managers are not under the supervisory jurisdiction of CBN. But any moment from now there will be a public advertorial to warn members of the public regarding their emergence.“Apart from the deposit money banks that are supposed to take money from the public, anyone who gives his money to such fund managers, does so at his own risk.”Central Bank has started publishing the advertorial in national newspapers on the danger of patronising the voodoo banks.

In its edition of 9 April 2007, The NEWS magazine wrote extensively on these miracle banks and the shady manner they transact their business.According to the magazine, “investors are advised to be wary of finance and investment houses whose owners lack integrity and credibility. Late last year, operators of an illegal finance company, Spring of Wealth International Limited, which had Olayinka Oyele as Chairman), Ilufuye Opeyemi (Director of Finance) and Abraham Joseph (Director of Operations), were arrested by the EFCC, following a complaint from a customer who later became a victim. “The finance house, situated at Suite 31 , Kalejaiye Shopping Complex, 105 Lebanon Street , Old Gbagi Market in Ibadan , has been engaged in illegal receipt of deposits from members of the public despite having not been licensed by the Central Bank of Nigeria , CBN, to operate as a financial institution.“Before the arrest of the trio, the company had over 115,000 subscribers. The company’s bait for prospective depositors was the promise of outlandish interests, sometimes as high as a 100 per cent return on deposits within weeks of such lodgment.

The EFCC disclosed that apart from the company not possessing the licence, it also lacked the cash back-up or an insurance cover to sustain the operations.“Located at Suite 47 , Akande Shopping Complex, Lagos motor park, Sango, Ibadan , is Treasureline Interlink. Treasureline, which also has two other offices in Lagos , offers slots and a pay-off of about three months. The period could come sooner or later, depending on how soon it sells the slots for each operational week. An investor who deposits for seven slots of N14,300 is promised a jumbo payoff of N30,000 in 12 weeks or less. Investment of N29,500, representing 15 slots, yields 70,000 in 12 weeks or less. For 63 slots of N120,700, pay-off in three weeks equates N310,000, while the big one of N2,457,400 for 2,047 slots offer a pay-off of N10.23 million in 12 weeks or less. “Every pay-off is subjected to a 5 per cent VAT deduction. Payment is made in cash for manageable amounts and cheques for larger amounts. But for week 12, the company resorted to the Flash-me Credit system of First Inland Bank.Treasureline has not disclosed to customers what they do with money placed with it. An inquisitive customer who requested for the information was denied it on the pretext that previous experience has taught them that people lean on that knowledge to form their own investment companies. The sponsor of the scheme is one Isaac Ademola Kolade. The managing director of the company, this magazine gathered, doubles as a lecturer at the Department of Chemistry, Ibadan Polytechnic.”Investigations revealed that top security agents and bank workers patronise the wonder banks that is why they operate as if they are above the law.

It's my party!!!

No i didn't cry. Had alot of fun can't believe so many people showed up. How did i feel? Splendid. I'll tell about my unexpected presents in my next post.

Here -a few pictures of my cakes!

A short prayer

May the Lord bless you and keep you,
May He make His face to shine upon you and be gracious unto you,
May the Lord lift up the light of His countenace on you and give you peace both now and forever,
Amen.

Till Partnership do us

It all started in April. Me tired of staying home and watching t.v/ Playing on the Internet/eating and getting fatter all day, decided it was time to take a job, any job. Notice i said take not seek for. I always had and still have this belief that i would work in a big or major oil company (don't we all) but while waiting i could work anywhere, preferably a firm.

So i got employed and started to work excitedly in a nice small and cute firm (i thought the space was too small initially). The interior decoration was great, the people very descent and friendly, a great working environment in a good location also, 20 Mins away from home minus the traffic of course. There was room for growth and to learn. It seemed like a place i would like to be in for a while, i could take holidays, i could have some kind of liberty. And yes i was promised i would be trained, stability,i would in no distant time become a Partner yes PARTNER. I set out advertising, marketing and seeking to expand my new found wonderland. I was sent to represent the firm in conferences including one abroad just weeks after my new employment, i was truly blessed and thought i had found favour.

It's a few months down and the partner (as he calls himself i mean its a one man show) called me to say he's partnering with some bossy looking lady that comes to my office almost everyday and whispers when they meet. So that's what it was about. Her office is down the corridor from ours but she has another office in England and is always over there. We are not keeping our name or brand, we are not keeping our office space, we are not keeping Nada. I thought my dear "partner" had gone mad. I know it takes a while to be established but it's not time to be desperate yet. He asked my opinion and i told him to take his time ie if he hadn't made his mind up. In my mind my selfish thoughts were there... what about me? what about the trips to Singapore and other places i was promised? what will happen to me?

Now i understand why Mr. I left in a hurry at the end of last month, how could i have been so blind .He had told me it was because his new job was worth millions more than what he earns, but i was surprised because it had nothing to do with his profession and i knew for him money was secondary since he has loads of investments and businesses, he just wanted a nice place to get out to daily plus the "partnership" promise, even Miss P has been acting desperate, she's crossing almost 7 states this weekend to go for a test.

Yours truly has dusted her c.v and has decided to pursue her original dream. Her Own job in a multinational Oil company! My steps are still ordered wish me luck...... Being in Nigeria i must state that my only connection is God.

All is well.

I started my weekend making sure i had bought all we needed at home and there would be no excuses so i would go in peace for the total woman talk show. Thank God for my lil sister we had planned to work hand in hand to achieve my goal. Cos she was planning to go for a wedding her friends had claimed Nigerian "celebrities" would attend hummmm.

Ok first we decided to stay awake and cook deep into the night while we picked out my sister's baff, chatted and watched movies. We were long gone(sleep of course after a busy week) when we realised we had forgotten the food(s) on the fire, fortunately they were not burning yipeee. then wen we got to the kitchen, the gas had finished kai that was the begining. I knew it!

Ok we had to wait for the shops to open, buy the gas and continue from where we stopped.Lil sis agreed that it's best i rush off while she finishes up since hers was a wedding (bless her). I finally got to the Muson centre for 10.30am and the doors were closed, they were filming and i couldn't get in. I still wonder what i missed. Anyway i had an option to wait till they breaked but nah i tot i'll go home so lil sis can go have some fun. As soon as i got home it started raining poor girl.

Anyway we all finally attended DH's friends wedding that was more like a feast. With an Arabian night setting, every thing about the wedding was beautiful. The lights, decoration, the people, the couple... everything. This was my first Yoruba engagement/ wedding/night party/Muslim wedding. So i decided to respect myself, the weather and all and cover my body. But to my greatest shock men looking for 2nd wives prefer it wen u cover ur body o. Anyway i allowed dh to sit with his friends while i sat with lil sis and some of the other iyawos. A man old enough to be my grandfather comes to me and wisphers in my ear "my daddy wants to see you" waaaaaaaaat? that would be my great grand father. Although lil sis was of the view that it meant his chairman or something, You know someone he respects. I ignored them and their rot. How come the guys in this wedding seemed to be desperate. In Nigeria it's the women that people make out like desperados but the reverse was the case here. On our way out a guy (obviously single this time) followed me all the way to the car i didn't even notice. He was about to touch me when i heard DH warning him to stay clear from me or lil sis na wa o.

Sunday, i decided to be a good friend and go for an ex school mates baby's party. It was fun as lil sis was happy to tag along and we picked my lil niece too. I got home and felt funny like i was choking. After all my enjoyment and disappointment (missing the talk show) i ended up in the hospital and took those awful jabs in my veins after the nebulizer did me no justice. But i sat down all thru these parties i thought. All these aggravated attacks want to weigh a sister down. I know i need to loose some weight cos sisbee has advised so and i have learnt to listen to her advice over the years. I can't even walk successfully up my stairs so how will i loose weight without exercise???? i'll worry not , suggestions welcome.

All in all my weekend was good and eventful. Am sure next week is going to better cos ..................it's my birthday!!!!!! Am taking some days off work to "relax" i don't want any hinderances on my first birthday as a Mrs.- i feel like am going to be 1(one).

Maybe i really take things too seriously

Today i noticed something that made me start to ask myself questions. To doubt my very own wonderful self (in the past i would have felt blue all day) but i have learnt that in life you never really please everyone, you can only do your best to satisfy your christian conscience.

In a bid to find answers today i have asked my colleague and my dear cousin if what has happened has anything to do with me or was caused by me (i know i have a strong and determined/ dodged spirit that has kept me going and strong and enabled me to strive as a loner lost in thoughts of my own and a life/heart full enough to explode, yet i keep smiling.) Both have assured me that all is well, only hitch they say is that i strive too hard for perfection. Life is easy i shouldn't take things too seriously.

So in a strange twist of faith i started to count my blessings as these words came to me just like in Temmy's post - i am fearfully and wonderfully made. A perfect and chosen generation. I am unique and there is nothing i or anybody or what anybody thinks of me can do about it. I am not under condemnation, i am somebody in Christ. I am a wonder and still am , I am just like my FATHER - everything.

I have so so much to be thankful for -

From Abundance - to satisfied then to homelessness (a horrible experience i don't wish anyone at all) - Then now to a home i can decorate and call my own.

From loneliness, sadness and confusion - to looking forward to getting out of bed in the morning.

From Joblessness & dissatisfaction - to my faithful job in Aa

From Lavish spending and serious wasting - to pennylessness - to my own personal savings and priorities.

I have a devoted and selfless DH, My wonderful, supporting always ever present and faithful sisters, My loving Dad, Mum, cousins, friends and pals.

There's just too too much. I cant continue to count my blessings. He has set things straight in my life and am grateful. Looking back now i know that everything happened for a reason and in all things i have learnt to give thanks. God has a perfect plan for everyone.

I am consoled with the fact that no one deserves to be unhappy because of another.

There's a Total woman talk show on fashion and style, ur home,etc happening tomorrow at the Muson centre, presented by House on the Rock. I intend to be there life and direct, seeing it's a freebie. To register call 01 - 4614120.

Have a great weekend.

Are you a 'high maintenance' wife or girlfriend - emotionally??

or friend?


Basically it means that you create a lot of drama and work and tension for the wrong reasons.


The reasons can include these:


- to get attention.

- because you feel that he needs to "prove" that he loves you

- due to sheer boredom

- because you think that real love means you do a lot of shouting


Don't be a "high maintenance" wife or girlfriend. Love is supposed to be enjoyable and yes, FUN. When the fun goes out of life, then life drastically changes for all of us. It even affects your health.Life has enough stresses without adding to them on purpose.


Now if you recognize yourself here, the LAST thing you need to do is to start beating yourself up over it. We've all probably done this with others!! - you need a break today and to have FUN.

Missing us together

Am just reminiscing my good times, all these people and events would give u a sneak preview of me

My Sisters, My Mum - wow how have we drifted like this now. If anyone ever told me it was possible i'll never agree.

I miss the laughter and fun times- our house as it metamorphised from Toy Land, to match box people, then to the sister bee and u show, the prayer sessions, the scrambling over one small mr biggs, everything including the porridge plantain with Cod liver oil (cant believe we were forced to eat that yuck) and Green Shan Shandy lovely.

The songs - The butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker all in a rubber der der..... My mums better than ur mum........, Maybe it's because am a londoner.... that i think of it.............(singing)

The War between Dad and our o so many toasters. Locking those poor dudes up in the downstairs room.

The fights

Amy's sleeping outside cos they didnt take her to the dusty village, me sleeping on the cold floor in front of dads room cos they kicked me out. His bed was my bed... if only i knew then what i know now, so thats why they kicked me out ehr????? Hey!

The sad times- The hard times, challenges that came with Nne and her baby boom....

The one thing that we love and that bound us together DAD!!!

Ma gees... Kel lil lil, LOASCM, Kunnie, Oku, Keke,Ruthless - My all time VIP's, must say thanks for watching my back.

I miss the yabs, the girls night outs, all those dry(tehehehe) bbqs. (those were the days in Kunnie and Oku's flat, fresh out of uni, young and restless.) the cold nights, walking aimlessly and just making noise, singing, being us. The fish and plantain that seemed like heaven to us.I will never forget the day we were going to Nutts and decided to sit on first class cos we were just naughty...... that was the most embrassing day of my life, and it was with u guys.

I remember the pari at The roof top .... that some nigerian guy was giving away dollars to all the girls who attended........... that was the funniest day of ma life!It goes on and on.... (kunnie don born , shes married now, Oku just doesnt have my time anymore. LIFE).

I miss the fights, encouragement and of course ponder in ur eyes yes LOASCM- i always see that in ur eyes the look that goes this excited child! we have have had our break ups and make ups.

THE HARSH REALITY - Ruthie where r u man! we have come a very long way from those ISSU days in the forest, to working with the user -T-, to back to tis Lagos na wa o!

Keke - i just miss everything. Those sleepless law school nights, the yummy cooking. You taught me the meaning of friendship.

My inseperable Kel lil lil - I still love u loads and know u'll come across my blog someday, am speechless when it gets to u cos dunno where to start.

Miss T, Enes, Nana - OMG those days as foreigners in the Strand, we didnt even know our faith, what can i say. Thank God we made it.

Flex - So good things come to an end? never wanted it to end and u always said its not over till its over, after we saw as "pals" in chi-town, i knew IT WAS OVER. (yea the chi-town for my peps reading this, u never really get over pure and innocent whatever do u?)

Anyways that that, These are my memories, made me, moulded me, shaken me, moved me.

Am sure only 2 out of the many people in tis blog.

Is it in my mind - I feel eyes on me!!! (RANT)

The message in church yesterday must have been for me. I woke up late so praise God went to a church near my house and after so long finally heard a message for MOI!! miss that alot. Anyway it was very clear and simple "be anxious for nothing" be careful for nothing but with prayer and thanks giving make your request known to God. Am glad i went, glad i heard the word because the past month i found myself being my own real cheer leader and encouragement.

Recently almost everyone around me or that cares has been over anxious for me, i actually noticed it had gotten out of hand this weekend, my sister in law that tried to call me earlier in the week, so i decided to wake up early do my dailes and then stop off at hers on my way out. When i got to her door it was like an attack.

Sister in law - Why are you still wearing tight clothes?

Me in shock - sorry???

SIL - its not good for the baby, thats why i have been calling your fone. I just thought that if no

one had advised you i should do so as well as send my help down to help with house work etc..... (is this woman an amibo? really intrested? concerned? or what?)

Me - What berra mind ur biz or else i'll.......... no i wish i said that shaaa, i go i dont understand with my innocent face, something i do when i want to get out of a corner. I mean even if i am preggers i hate people in my bussiness.

SIL - Ok sorry not that your fat, you just look different, i advise you go for a test and scan.

I just told her i wasnt pregnant yet period, i mean if i was i wont be wearing my tight codroys and a belt on my tummy now. And what did she mean by no one has advised me? I've got 7 sisters please.

Anyway thats just the latest of the episodes people call to ask how junior is kicking in the tummy etc. Then when you try to talk about it with friends etc they just go on and on about how you should take your mind off it, it will come and such irritating remarks. I mean i have been on my own doing my thing, dieting exercising living my life generally then they keep asking any goodnews? when are we expecting baby? etc and if i feel up to it i try to update them (nosy pokers) before they carry on with their speeches that seem planned. Its almost as if they dont even want you to be sef (thse are people can never mind their business).

Another annoying one was my neighbour (some young gal that believes that marriage is an achievement if you leave her she will enter guiness book of records because in her words "you dont know that it's not easy, as soon as i finished uni, i got married o. It is my accomplishment" like its a competition and yes shes actually due any minute from now) comes to my house one saturday morning to "advice me", her aunty!!! DOES WE RAP????? i just listen to her with a mind to walk her out, but i listen she asks if am pg yet and would like me to know she'll be there if i need to ask any questions i tell her i will let her know, b4 she leaves she gives me 2 books and tells me that its for married people and people trying to concieve, that it really helps. That she read it well cos she didnt want people looking at her and that she admires m.e and wouldnt want anyone looking at me. IMAGINE, JUST IMAGINE...i had the mind to ask her not to come to my house again all these jobless tatafo neighbours gosh!

Ok enuff ranting, my blog isnt for ranting i have saved that for something else... But please i need someone that knows all these people to advise them to leave me alone o. I just got married some months ago. DID THEY SEE ME IN THEIR DREAMS.

Should i send out text messages simply saying "beloved be anxious for nothing" will they get the message?